I was watching Youtube or saw a meme somewhere that asked the question: What are 3 things you’d tell your 20 year old self? I decided to expand the time frame and ask myself what I would tell myself 20-29 year old self? Please see my responses below:
- Continue to keep your standard high
- You made the right choice not having children
- You made the right choice when decided to become a believer
My parents, especially my mom, admonished me to have high standards. To not let anyone talk to me any kind of way, treat me poorly, disrespect me, or anything of the sort. Because of this I have often been described as difficult, boujee, stuck up, or a hand full. Though when I was younger this would hurt my feelings. I would advise myself to continue to take the short term hurt, because doing this will help you avoid long term foolishness, pain and suffering.
I would also tell myself that I made the right decision to not have children. I got married in my early 30’s and although my husband would have been ok with us having children I choose to not go down that route. The two main reasons are because having children has never been high on my priority list and my husband had 3 children of his own when got married. Because of this I am able to have the blessing of having children and grandchildren and the freedom to continue to maneuver through life the way I want to.
Lastly, I made the decision to become a believer when I was 22 years old. It was on May 1, 2005 and I was in my senior year of college. I graduated 12 days later. I spent a lot of time thinking through what I wanted my life to look like, asking a lot of questions, praying, testing God to see if he is really real, and going to church. I made a conscious decision that was well thought out and not based on any kind of emotional response to a church service or life event. Although I thought through my decision I was still scared and had doubts. I would tell my 22 year old self this will be one of the best decisions you will make. Yes, you will question the decision and even have moments when you want to walk away from the faith, however, if you could look forward into your life you would be able to say with full confidence that you are making the right choice.
What would you tell your younger self?
